Learning To Love Myself

Butterflies can't see their wings. They can't see how truly beautiful they are, but everyone else can. People are like that too.

Hey guys!

Today I'm going to talk about something a little bit personal, but hopefully it can help some of you.

Lately I've been feeling pretty insecure about myself and not very happy with myself. I've been trying to change things to love myself more, but nothing seems to be working. If you follow me on Twitter you probably would have seen all my tweets about how I'm feeling a lot.

In order to love myself, I thought I would have to change myself. But I've been told that I should love myself now, before changing myself, because I'm already beautiful and perfect in my own way.

Even though I haven't quite got to the stage of loving myself just yet, I have realised that just because I don't think I'm beautiful, doesn't mean everyone else thinks I'm ugly too. In fact, a lot of people think I'm beautiful.

In the past couple of days, I have been told that I am beautiful and that I have no idea how many people would love to look like me. There is a lot more people than I think. The other day I was talking to my friend, Tiana, and she told me how she would love to be more like me and I was so flattered and surprised, especially because ever since I've known her I have wished I was more like her. A similar thing also happened with my friend, Abbie, around the same time. Since then, I have tried to remind myself that people would die (well maybe not literally) to look like me, and that I should embrace how I look.

When I decided I would try to figure out why people thought I was beautiful, I learnt what little things people loved about me - how my eyes apparently sparkle in the sun, how my hair sits perfectly, how my nose is the perfect shape. I tried to deny these, and ask how these things are beautiful, when really I should have just believed it, because it's what someone believes and really thinks about me, even if I don't agree.

I've also been told that my little so called imperfections make me who I am. That's when I said "but I don't want to be me". Writing this now, I should have told myself that there are people who want to be me, and I can't be anyone else except for myself, so I should just be myself and not take my body or who I am for granted and be thankful for what I have and who I am.

Last night at around 3:15 in the morning, my internet friend, Mel, wrote me a long paragraph telling me how it get's better and how beautiful I am. She was the one who kind of inspired me to write this. I woke up this morning and read what she sent me and it literally made my day, and I'm so thankful to have her in my life.

In the end, in order to love ourselves and to be happy, it's up to ourselves who make that decision and we can't just rely on others. But sometimes, we do need a little bit of a push from others to get us going and to see that there are people who care.

If you're feeling down about life or about yourself like I have been for the past week or so, I'm going to be that little push for you right now, and tell you a few of the things that Mel told me.

Everything get's better. One day you will wake up and love the life you are living and love the body you are living in.

Life sucks sometimes but you are young and only a teenager (this is what I was told so if doesn't apply to you then I'm sorry), and bad things happen in life but it's okay! It's okay not to be okay because that's a part of nature and eventually in the end it becomes better.

You will have your good days, and you will have your bad days. But that's completely normal and it happens to everyone! Every day is a new day and you should treasure every single one, because you will only ever have that day once and never again.

You are so so beautiful, and I'm not just saying that. I know I may have not even seen your face before but I can guarantee you that I think you are stunning and I probably wish I looked like you.

You have no idea how many people would love to look like you, you can disagree, but you are so pretty. It hurts me to see people who are so beautiful, tell themselves the opposite, but self hatred and insecurities get in our way sometimes and that's completely okay, because that's just life.

Our society today is screwed up and says that it's okay to hate yourself (it is sometimes but not all the time), but one day I hope you feel confident in your own skin and be proud of who you are.

To finish off, I just want to talk about someone who is a role model to me and really inspires me to love myself - Demi Lovato. Recently, I've seen her participate in a photo shoot, where she is bare faced and naked. Demi said this was a way for her to show the realness of herself and help people see that you don't need nice clothes and makeup to feel beautiful. All you need is yourself and your own skin. She has dealt with eating disorders and self hatred in the past, and now she loves and is proud of the body she's in, and she is such a good example to show that it will get better and you will love yourself one day.

Every time I've seen my reflection in a mirror or a window, I have told myself that I am beautiful. Even though most of the time it feels like I am lying, it is true to some people, and if I keep doing it enough, one day it won't feel like I'm lying to myself anymore and I will believe it. I want you to do the same thing, starting today.

I promise you it get's better, and I am telling you that you are so beautiful and that's what I truly believe. Even if you don't believe it yourself, you should believe that I believe that.

I really hoped this help some of you, and I hope we can go on this little journey of trying to love ourselves together.

If you have any questions or just need someone to talk to, comment below or DM me on Twitter.

I love you, stay beautiful. ♥

Jade xxx